Comments for alphafemme http://alphafemme.net Femme in all its forms. Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:37:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 Comment on markers of queer femme by Scott Iwata http://alphafemme.net/2010/01/29/markers-of-queer-femme/comment-page-1/#comment-3173 Scott Iwata Tue, 21 Feb 2012 21:37:18 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=403#comment-3173 belinski harp contrivance observe Selma boxington wireless scapula joggle belinski harp contrivance observe Selma boxington wireless scapula joggle

]]> Comment on choices and changes by Free iPad Giveaway http://alphafemme.net/2010/03/07/choices-and-changes/comment-page-1/#comment-3172 Free iPad Giveaway Sat, 18 Feb 2012 18:29:15 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=471#comment-3172 Hello there! I know this is kinda off topic but I was wondering if you knew where I could find a captcha plugin for my comment form? I'm using the same blog platform as yours and I'm having trouble finding one? Thanks a lot! Hello there! I know this is kinda off topic but I was wondering if you knew where I could find a captcha plugin for my comment form? I’m using the same blog platform as yours and I’m having trouble finding one? Thanks a lot!

]]> Comment on my new (internet) home by Johann http://alphafemme.net/2010/01/27/my-new-internet-home/comment-page-1/#comment-3171 Johann Fri, 17 Feb 2012 02:03:04 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=394#comment-3171 Oh, superb description! I have no clue how you were able to write this post..it’d take me weeks. Well worth it though, I’d assume. Have you considered selling ads on your website? Oh, superb description! I have no clue how you were able to write this post..it’d take me weeks. Well worth it though, I’d assume. Have you considered selling ads on your website?

]]> Comment on allyship: that post I've been sitting on all week by Bearing Witness: Ethical alternatives to ‘being’ an ally | ephemeradical http://alphafemme.net/2010/01/18/allyship-that-post-ive-been-sitting-on-all-week/comment-page-1/#comment-3170 Bearing Witness: Ethical alternatives to ‘being’ an ally | ephemeradical Thu, 16 Feb 2012 17:13:41 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=352#comment-3170 [...] critiques have been made of the behaviour of such allies and of the concept in itself (e.g. serious critiques and fun ones).  The failure of the concept of ally is best seen, I think, in the number [...] [...] critiques have been made of the behaviour of such allies and of the concept in itself (e.g. serious critiques and fun ones).  The failure of the concept of ally is best seen, I think, in the number [...]

]]> Comment on markers of queer femme by Marketing Automation http://alphafemme.net/2010/01/29/markers-of-queer-femme/comment-page-1/#comment-3169 Marketing Automation Fri, 10 Feb 2012 08:48:54 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=403#comment-3169 Truth must necessarily be stranger than fiction for fiction is the creation of the human mind and therefore congenial to it. Truth must necessarily be stranger than fiction for fiction is the creation of the human mind and therefore congenial to it.

]]> Comment on walls and corners by mackenzie http://alphafemme.net/2012/01/22/walls-and-corners/comment-page-1/#comment-3164 mackenzie Wed, 25 Jan 2012 23:27:10 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=746#comment-3164 may this be the year that you unravel more about who you are, what you want, & what makes you happy in the world. glad to read your writing again. may this be the year that you unravel more about who you are, what you want, & what makes you happy in the world. glad to read your writing again.

]]> Comment on walls and corners by Ashley http://alphafemme.net/2012/01/22/walls-and-corners/comment-page-1/#comment-3161 Ashley Mon, 23 Jan 2012 13:52:51 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=746#comment-3161 The hard answer is you sit with it. You don't run or hide from it, you merely sit. It's not easy, in fact, it's near impossible and such a process in itself. This though, writing, sharing, putting it out there, away from "in there," whether that's your head or your heart or both, it's one of the first and best steps. Let the love and support wash over you for you are indeed greatly loved and cared for. The hard answer is you sit with it. You don’t run or hide from it, you merely sit. It’s not easy, in fact, it’s near impossible and such a process in itself. This though, writing, sharing, putting it out there, away from “in there,” whether that’s your head or your heart or both, it’s one of the first and best steps. Let the love and support wash over you for you are indeed greatly loved and cared for.

]]> Comment on walls and corners by CAB http://alphafemme.net/2012/01/22/walls-and-corners/comment-page-1/#comment-3160 CAB Mon, 23 Jan 2012 08:39:01 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=746#comment-3160 I really wish I had something wise and insightful to say that would miraculously make things easier or better but then I would just be lying. I can say that looking at who we are and who we want to be *is” painful. I think that is why so many people wander through life without ever taking a look close look. I can pinpoint specific ages where I made decisions about who I was and who I wanted to be. At 25 I decided I deserved better friends, at 39 I decided that I was tired of hating who I had become and that maybe I deserved a better version of me and the chance to actually be “me” without the expectations of others. That’s the short version anyway. When I read your post the 1st thing that came to mind was the Toby Lightman song Everyday. It’s one of my favorites. I don't know if I can embed it here. This is the link: http://youtu.be/P0CkCW5G2Zo [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0CkCW5G2Zo&w=560&h=315] Lyrics: "Everyday" Everyday is a struggle between what I wanna say And what I should keep to myself And the words that manage to leave my lips Don't hurt me, but they hurt everyone else And I find myself in need of a pause I'm not sure why, but I think that it's because Of this desire to be what others want me to be Which is nothing close to me [Chorus:] But I'll see better when the smoke clears When the smoke clears inside my head And I can listen when the screaming doesn't repeat everything I've said And all that remains me and who I am at the end of the day And this happens everyday Everyday is a battle between what I wanna know And what I don't wanna figure out And everything in between in these thoughts of mine That you know I can't live with out And I find myself in need of a pause I'm not sure why, but I think that it's because Of this desire to be what others want me to be Which is nothing close to me [Chorus] I really wish I had something wise and insightful to say that would miraculously make things easier or better but then I would just be lying. I can say that looking at who we are and who we want to be *is” painful. I think that is why so many people wander through life without ever taking a look close look. I can pinpoint specific ages where I made decisions about who I was and who I wanted to be. At 25 I decided I deserved better friends, at 39 I decided that I was tired of hating who I had become and that maybe I deserved a better version of me and the chance to actually be “me” without the expectations of others. That’s the short version anyway.

When I read your post the 1st thing that came to mind was the Toby Lightman song Everyday. It’s one of my favorites.

I don’t know if I can embed it here. This is the link:
http://youtu.be/P0CkCW5G2Zo

[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0CkCW5G2Zo&w=560&h=315

Lyrics:
"Everyday"

Everyday is a struggle between what I wanna say
And what I should keep to myself
And the words that manage to leave my lips
Don't hurt me, but they hurt everyone else

And I find myself in need of a pause
I'm not sure why, but I think that it's because
Of this desire to be what others want me to be
Which is nothing close to me

[Chorus:]
But I’ll see better when the smoke clears
When the smoke clears inside my head
And I can listen when the screaming doesn’t repeat everything I’ve said
And all that remains me and who I am at the end of the day
And this happens everyday

Everyday is a battle between what I wanna know
And what I don’t wanna figure out
And everything in between in these thoughts of mine
That you know I can’t live with out

And I find myself in need of a pause
I’m not sure why, but I think that it’s because
Of this desire to be what others want me to be
Which is nothing close to me

[Chorus]

]]> Comment on 2011 by G http://alphafemme.net/2012/01/02/2011/comment-page-1/#comment-3149 G Wed, 11 Jan 2012 04:26:02 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=743#comment-3149 It sounds like 2011 was full of ... well, just FULL. I'm sorry to hear about your grad program. I wondered how that was going for you. I hope that 2012 will be full of more amazing and less stressful things for you and ML. Keep us posted! It sounds like 2011 was full of … well, just FULL. I’m sorry to hear about your grad program. I wondered how that was going for you. I hope that 2012 will be full of more amazing and less stressful things for you and ML. Keep us posted!

]]> Comment on responding to sexual violence by Rachel http://alphafemme.net/2011/12/18/responding-to-sexual-violence/comment-page-1/#comment-3147 Rachel Fri, 06 Jan 2012 16:39:37 +0000 http://alphafemme.net/?p=736#comment-3147 I'm really glad you wrote about this. You articulated some of the conflicting feelings I had around this information and the way it was disseminated. I've also got no idea what a better response from the community would look like. But perhaps its time we started figuring that out as a community. Thank you for speaking on this. I’m really glad you wrote about this. You articulated some of the conflicting feelings I had around this information and the way it was disseminated. I’ve also got no idea what a better response from the community would look like. But perhaps its time we started figuring that out as a community. Thank you for speaking on this.

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