January 2013
- 05: ghosts
August 2012
July 2012
June 2012
- 27: fuck visibility
- 25: more changes
April 2012
- 05: marking a month
January 2012
- 22: walls and corners
- 02: 2011
December 2011
July 2011
June 2011
May 2011
March 2011
- 18: pin-up girl
- 18: password protection
February 2011
January 2011
December 2010
- 26: homesick
November 2010
- 30: two years
- 07: Dear Abby
- 03: on feeling politicized
October 2010
- 28: thinking about
- 11: disconnect, reconnect
- 08: two years in words
- 06: the best blogiversary contest ever, courtesy of Essin’ Em
- 05: sexual violence, part II: thinking intersections of race
September 2010
- 28: articulating my submission fantasy even more
- 27: articulating my submission fantasy
- 18: femmes, femininity, and hair
- 08: changes in the air
August 2010
July 2010
- 30: the purpose of this space
- 24: foodie fun: very easy artisan-style bread
- 22: re-connection
- 12: my relationship with subbing
- 08: missed connections: update
- 07: missed connections
- 03: wearing the pants
June 2010
- 30: music in the afternoon
- 29: people do change
- 24: on queer liberation and solidarity
- 22: summer ennui
- 15: gay guys and gay gals, and why aren’t we all friends?
- 10: my unemployed vacation
- 07: finding happiness in unexpected places
- 04: thank god for orgasms
- 03: the return of the netz
May 2010
- 29: fun with texting*
- 25: beautiful blogger
- 19: the meaning of home
- 05: we’re both baskets in this metaphor
April 2010
- 26: afterthoughts
- 14: sexual violence, part I
- 12: our relationship project
- 12: summer plans
- 10: it hurts me to say it but sometimes lists and spreadsheets are not the answer
- 05: the hard questions
- 01: I’m gonna be a bad girl
March 2010
- 28: team spirit
- 26: Community United Against Violence: safetyfest 2010
- 19: eulogy for a vibrator
- 16: appropriation of queerness
- 14: funny little thing
- 07: choices and changes
February 2010
- 26: on learning how it feels
- 23: a leap of faith (and love)
- 22: a bit more on being a femme sans butch
- 17: the threads that make my tapestry
- 16: you got me at “lezzy”
- 12: “it’s undeniably true: I’m irresponsibly mad for you”
- 12: “strapon,” “strap on” or “strap-on”?: a grammatical elucidation
- 08: things to like about February
- 06: inhabiting my body
- 01: Music meme!
January 2010
- 29: markers of queer femme
- 27: my new (internet) home
- 20: rainy season!
- 18: allyship: that post I've been sitting on all week
- 12: defending my version of femme
- 03: love, meds, and femme-ininity: 2009 in review (and some ideas for 2010!)
December 2009
- 30: may this fantasy soon be a reality
- 27: would you like some heteronormativity with your turkey?
- 20: "but they're not my girl"
- 17: bringing sex out of the bedroom
- 14: in which I take after my mother
- 09: note to mi'lady: DO NOT READ THIS POST if you want to be surprised on Christmas.
- 04: difficult decisions
November 2009
- 30: one year
- 24: "It's the most wonderful time of the year"
- 23: why Alphafemme?
- 17: femme (in)visibility
- 16: divorce
- 16: if only dreams were real!
- 13: note to my Self, for when she is at some point inevitably lost in the dark again
- 10: tidying up the clutter
- 02: this week's goals: November 2, 2009
October 2009
- 29: a femme without a butch
- 27: anonymity and protecting identity
- 26: in which I welcome mi'lady home and get to practice femme
- 26: this week's goals: October 26, 2009
- 22: I am Femme: A Postscript
- 20: Investigating my identity: I am Femme.
- 18: Fucking in the mirror
- 14: this week's goals: October 12, 2009
- 08: Friday, 10/9 in SF: Heavy Rotation by ArtXX!!!
- 06: this week's goals: October 5, 2009
- 05: mental health day
September 2009
- 28: this week's goals: September 28
- 28: honest scrap
- 23: crash and burn
- 20: new look?
- 18: Liberation
- 15: Dear Internet, if I’m a cis-gendered woman, why does it turn me on to imagine I have a cock? Sincerely, Alphafemme
- 14: though really, the MOST irresistible part of a woman is her hands.
- 13: guess what, people? I LOVE ORGASMS.
- 09: Fall Previews! Or, this is a cop-out blog post because all I do is tell you what I WILL be writing about. As soon as I get my life back.
- 03: where are all the ladies?
August 2009
- 31: birthday treats!
- 24: a NON-family vacation
- 20: I don't want to hurt her, I just want to love her and be loved
- 15: family vacation
- 13: the moments of good
- 10: a hundred thousand pieces
- 07: I feel like a wound-up wind-up toy of sex.
- 04: this post has no direction because I'm too busy to come up with one
July 2009
- 30: occupying power
- 28: I really dislike planning for the future, it stresses me out
- 24: and now I'm an official junkie
- 23: okay, I know these things are silly, but I can't resist…
- 21: drug cocktails!
- 18: procrastinating, because I Hate Packing
- 15: last few nights by the ocean
- 14: my refrigerator, British accents, and weepy drunks
- 13: a little bit of distance
- 10: in which I sound like a spoiled brat
- 09: on the other side of despair
- 08: why I hate my body, or, the joys of PMS
- 07: positive self-talk and self-care
March 2009
December 2008
November 2008
- 14: Thoughts on Election Day
- 02: The inevitable, accidental, coincidental run-in with the Ex-Girlfriend
October 2008
- 13: Coming Out interview
- 11: National Coming Out Day
- 08: funny friends
