Comments on: re-connection

By: Sora Ryu

Sora Ryu — Thu, 12 Aug 2010 22:57:32 +0000

I felt kind of rudderless and in a funk this summer but then I just relaxed and enjoyed the time off. Glad you’re doing the same ^_^

By: Essin' Em

Essin' Em — Fri, 30 Jul 2010 20:17:43 +0000

This reminds me of a part of Avenue Q, where he’s talking about trying to find a purpose.

I’ve noticed that when I was in HS, I knew EXACTLY what I wanted to do; a counselor for gifted children. Then I got to college, and I wanted to be a traditional youth sex educator…probably for planned parenthood. Then in grad school, I opened it up to “sex educator, and possibly owning a toy store and/or a porn company.” And now, 2+ year post grad, my goal is to do what I love, and get by. As financial issues come down on us more and more, I remind myself at least I’m doing something I love…even if I’m falling into debt. It’s so interesting to see how our purpose and goals change.

I can’t wait to see you in Sept and give you a big hug!

By: C.

C. — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:23:17 +0000

Lol, I was being silly… I just wanted to reply to your post! There was something… for lack of a better word, powerful about reading your name. It’s like you broke through an invisible wall. Reconnecting, in your words.

Anyway, instead of leaving another silly comment, I’ll borrow Baz Luhrmann’s song lyrics from Everybody’s Free to Wear Sunscreen:
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don’t.
(My favourite: Do one thing everyday that scares you.)

FYI I have a relative named Evagay (ethnic name; she’s not gay).

Cheers

By: Ashley

Ashley — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 23:52:02 +0000

Nice to ‘meet’ you Eva! Even though, you know, I feel like I already know you so well. Feel that feeling of drifting; it’s not bad, it’s just contrast to help you know what you DO want!

So glad you’re here, sharing in this space; thank you. Your words, whatever they are, are always welcome. :)

By: Amak

Amak — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 20:39:52 +0000

Eva, wow! I like this… :-)

By: lady brett

lady brett — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 19:48:22 +0000

hello, dear. i certainly understand this rudderless feeling. glad you’re working through =)

By: Momo

Momo — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 15:53:43 +0000

Eva, It’s great that you’re embracing the blog, I always LOVE reading! Post whatever you want – I’ll still read.

I started a blog recently, and it has actually become my purpose lately – at least for the summer while I wait for college to start…

By: G

Sun, 25 Jul 2010 04:54:33 +0000

I know I already told you this, but this subject has been rattling around in my head for a couple of weeks, and you really nailed the description of it.

I do try NOT to make a big deal in my head if I’m feeling a little rudderless for a while, because then I’ll obsess, and we all know how that tends to turn out for people.

In the meantime, baking! That’s hot. Welcome back, friend.

By: Jolie

Jolie — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 02:23:18 +0000

Eva. I like it a lot. ;-)

I’m Becky, and I’m thrilled to “meet” you.

This outpouring in the comments? This is one of the reasons I keep blogging, even through the blockages.

I’m glad the expression made you laugh. Laughter also helps with the stuck moments!

I’m also going to have to try the bread recipe after we get moved and settled. Homemade bread is my favorite!

By: Natalie

Natalie — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 01:17:14 +0000

I just recently found your blog and have been reading it rather non-stop. I can completely relate with the lack of purpose and cold feet about grad school. I recently got laid off and was left with a weird, “WTF do I do now?” I think your writing is funny and poignant and down to earth…it’s nice to have around, and I love reading your thoughts about gender identity and femme-issues…more please! :)