Comments on: anonymity and protecting identity

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 01:46:07 +0000

Oh horrors! People do such horrible things :( Sigh. Yeah, I prefer the anonymity, it helps me be honest and genuine (despite how counter-intuitive that may sound!). And actually… these days, mi’lady *does* read this blog! It took me some time to convince myself that I wouldn’t write any differently knowing she reads than I do anyway, but once I’d convinced myself of that I gave her the URL. But I’m totally with you on the creepiness of being written about and not knowing it :(

By: Erica

Erica — Thu, 18 Feb 2010 07:50:03 +0000

I’m glad you use your blog as an outlet. I think that everyon has the right to have a anonymous blog online, even if they don’t let certain people read it. I am, however, glad that your girlfriend is aware that you have a blog where you sometimes talk about her. I found out that my ex-boyfriend (who I broke up with because he sexually assaulted and verbally threatened me) posted mean (and FALSE) things about me on an online men’s rights activism forum. Thankfully, he wasn’t stupid enough to put any personal details about me. Of coure, you’re a smart (and nice) woman, so you’d never do that! It’s smart to keep anonymous. Okay, so I think I’m just ranting now! To make a long story short: you’re awesome, and please don’t forget that!!!

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Mon, 14 Dec 2009 06:42:31 +0000

thank you, I really appreciate hearing that. glad you piped up and let me know you’re here :)

By: Little Miss Lez

Little Miss Lez — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 04:21:10 +0000

“…there might be other quiet readers out there who might be too shy to ask for a password but who might relate to what I write and gain some sort of comfort from it.”

totally one of your quiet readers, alphafemme! your blog has helped me so, so much since coming out to myself six months ago. I particularly appreciate the way you write so fearlessly and honestly about sex. i love this blog!

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:42:07 +0000

aww, thanks so much greg. as always, you’re so sweet!

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:40:52 +0000

thank you so much :) I really appreciate hearing that.

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:38:06 +0000

Ohmygosh, that’s true! Exes! I’m never going to give her the link until we’re stuck with each other forever… haha :)

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 22:37:28 +0000

Thanks for the comment Jen :) It’s good to know others do the same thing. I’m not sure yet when/if I’ll give her the link here, but I think it’ll happen eventually. I’m not that good yet at being vulnerable. I’m working on it…

By: Ms. Hinterland

Ms. Hinterland — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 03:41:12 +0000

You have a right to your blog. Go you! for defending it. And, hey, I’ve had exes read my blog. . .and it NEVER has led to anywhere good. It just gets overanalyzed etc. My blog is my place; and your blog is yours. . .And, for the record, it is awesome.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 28 Oct 2009 16:26:37 +0000

This is what people spend their time on? Really? You shouldn’t have to explain yourself to anyone. It’s your blog. Ditto on greg’s comments.

Also, my gf knew I had this blog and knew I wrote about her and myself and sex and whatever I wanted but she didn’t have access to it. I asked her permission to post pictures, etc. I just gave her my blog address in September, after 4 months of dating. I told her I’d give it to her when I was ready, and so I did.